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Monday, August 20, 2007

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My Slice of Life

For the past few weeks, I've been diligently posting entries from 'A Slice of Life' by Eugene Loh. Some said these posts are good and worth reading; some, however, see it as boring.

Well, this is very subjective, isn't it? Some like it, some don't. I find them meaningful, that's why I wanted to share with whoever reads my blog.

Thank you baby, for subscribing this for me. =)

Anyway, many times when I read them, I've sudden thoughts about that certain issue.; but just don't have the time to pen them down. Now, finally with a little free time, I'm gonna tell you MY slice of life..

A lot of stress, unhappiness, overeating and deliberate self-starving in life is caused by low self-esteem. A positive self-image is the cornerstone of a lasting relationship, and the more confident you are, the better you perform and consequently achieve success. - Building self-esteem (3 Aug)

Suddenly I feel that self confidence decreases as one gets older. At least that's what is happening to me right now. Friends, be it my age or even younger than me, are mostly graduates with a degree or diploma, and are successful in their career with at least 2-3 years of working experience.

But look at me. I'm still struggling in SIM with no career or whatsoever. Seems like I'm heading nowhere. My inferior complex is creeping out, slowly eating my confidence.

We do live in a highly competitive society and most of us have been taught that in order to survive, we have to be bigger, better, stronger, more good-looking, more popular, get better grades, close bigger deals. This culture of competition comes from the perception of scarcity of resources; that there is not enough to go around, that if you don't grab your slice of the pie you'll starve. - Life is not a competition (7 Aug)

How true. Beautiful people usually gets more privileges, are placed in higher priority and are being treated better than those who aren't so blessed in the looks department.

Remember Han-na in the korean movie '200 pounds beauty'? Although she has a great voice, no one thinks she looks good enough to go onstage. She suffers from extremely low self-esteem because of her physical appearance and decides to get full-body plastic surgery.

Do you often get upset because someone said something unkind to you or rejected you? Do you think that it's because there's something wrong with you? - Don't take it personally (9 Aug)

And why does it feels like the most natural reaction in the world for us to spontaneously jump to negative conclusions when something we perceive as unfair or offensive happens to us? - Not jumping to conclusions (10 Aug)

My current office is co-rent by 2 bosses - 1 interior design and 1 fashion design. To be frank, I don't really like the latter. He's loud and arrogant, and he doesn't even know my name despite I've been working there for more than a month!! Plus, he will walk pass my desk each time he needs to get to his office, and he don't even bother to say 'good morning' or 'hi'!

Initially I thought the problem lies with me. Maybe I don't look friendly or maybe I'm just a small fry so he can't be bothered with me. I was a little upset and didn't feel too good about myself.

But as time goes, I managed to convince myself that it's not worth getting affected. There are many many more things that I should focus on. Time is never enough, so why should I waste time on such minor matters, right?

We hunger for love, for sex, for respect, for attention, for success, for praise, for wealth, for material things. So we spend a lot of our time being hungry, always waiting for the time when that hunger is satisfied. But when that time comes, we just become hungry for something else. It seems no matter how much we consume, we're always craving more. - The curse of eternal hunger (11 Aug)

Well, the grass is always greener on the other side, isn't it? The truth is, we are never easily satisfy with what we already have. A higher-paying job, a faster car, a bigger house. We always want more, and it becomes a vicious cycle. To escape the curse, we need to pay attention to and appreciate the truly wonderful and miraculous things and people in our lives right now. Tell yourself how blessed you are with whatever you own and whoever is by your side right now. Think about it and you will realised how fortunate you are to own so much, so much more than many others.

Most of us have expectations of our partner in a romantic relationship... We may subscribe to certain ideals that may not even exist in real life. We may expect our partner to miraculously grow into the person that he or she, in truth, will never be... Whatever it is, expectations in relationships often lead to strife, frustration, disappointment, and sometimes, dissolution of the relationship. - Your expectations of your partner (13 Aug)

Isn't that always the case? We are different from one another; even twins have different characters and preferences. When we've expectations from our partners, they too, have expectations of us. However, few can truly become what their partners desire. Even if they do, they ain't themselves anymore; they have change into another person completely.

When we fall for someone, we like the person because of who they are. Then why do we want to change them into someone they are not? Ironic.. I think I'm one of them.. =p


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